Ten Tips for Communicating With the Chinese

1. Whilst bowing might be traditional, more and more Chinese (especially in a business/formal setting) will shake hands. This is best done with a slight nod of the head to show respect.

2. In China you may see someone lifting there arm up and down similar to waving goodbye (or how pedestrians indicate motorists to slow down in the UK). This is often done to get your attention to call you over.

3. Since the establishment of the PRC many Chinese women keep there (in western terms) maiden names. for example if she is married to Mr Wang it is rare for her to be called Wang taitai

4. Mandarin is a very direct language. Don't be surprised if sometimes people come off as rude or blunt. This is not the intention it is just the way the language is. This also applies to mandarin natives speaking English some may not appreciate some of the extra "flourish" put on in the name of politeness.

5.The Chinese love personal details. do not be surprised if you are asked your age, if you are married, how many children you have etc by everyone. This is a cultural thing and is seen as being friendly rather than prying (which it may be seen as in the west). In the run up to the 2008 Beijing Olympics there was even a series titled "The eight don't asks" as part of the governments politeness campaign.

6. When you are dining with a Chinese family don't be surprised to hear the hosts running down their food and calling it plain (yi dun bian fan - one simple cooked rice) despite it being expensive and complicated. This is the Chinese method of modesty, they will appreciate it greatly if you pay compliments to the food and the effort put in.

7. Watch your hands. in the west we like to gesture with our hands whilst we talk. This can be off putting to some Chinese and will not help communicating over the language barrier.

8. Be careful if you are giving gifts. gift giving in Chinese culture can be a minefield. In a business setting gifts can be considered bribery so should not be extravagant or given during negations.
In private settings don't be surprised if your recipient initially refuses your gift a few times. This is to not appear greedy, offer it again but try not to overdo it in case they really can't accept it.

9. When talking to a Chinese person be careful with your eye contact. Traditionally it was seen as disrespectful and aggressive to make eye contact. This is why many Chinese businessmen adopt a neutral expressions whilst dealing with negotiations.

10. Pointing with an index finger is also considered rude in China. use an open palmed gesture instead.

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